Knowing that the objective of the peer support trio is to support your professional development, it is entirely okay that some things will not work out, and you would question the purpose of it. You can find yourself facing some of the following traps or pitfalls and what you can do in such situations:
Situation: Listening to your peers (or yourself!) storytelling about something unrelated to the intended topic. The need for sharing could sometimes be so strong that it could lead to venting on some triggers or topics that are not connected and in line with the needs of all in the trio.
- Actions: Recognise the moment, acknowledge it but break the story, bring attention to the present moment and lead to the key point of your trio.
Situation: Awkward silence, not knowing what to discuss, no clear direction.
- Actions: Address the silence and share how it makes you feel. This is often a good conversation starter. At the same time, sometimes it is OK to be silent for a moment, and then the new direction will appear.
Situation: Busy schedules make it difficult to meet.
- Actions: This is a real challenge, especially if at least one of you is a freelancer. And most probably, other things are higher on the priority list. Nonetheless, finding time is part of the commitment; perhaps you can recheck priorities yourself and then with your trio.
Situation: Feeling the need to go in a direction that is not in line with the intended use of the trio – for instance, not exploring the feedback received but instead exploring more pressing (trainer) work-related issues
- Actions: You can find yourself needing support based on a recent situation that could greatly impact you. Practise making specific requests based on your needs from your trio- would they be willing to spend time to listen to you and offer support? Remember that learning comes from sharing and listening, which could benefit all.
Situation: Occurring conflicts, different opinions, finding yourself debating rather than supporting
- Actions: It is totally okay to find ourselves in a place of ‘storming’ if you are getting annoyed with each other by recognising differences – acknowledge that to the group and how it makes you feel. Come back to your shared purpose and agreements and be ready to move on with creating an even more mature and safe space for trio support.
If even one group member is not thriving, the whole group may need support from the Appraiser team: email@example.com. We invite you to seek support as soon as you sense that something is not working and you do not feel confident to address it yourself in your trio.